2021 Resolutions

What are your resolutions for 2021?

On Monday, my Coach asked me to think back to this time last year and all that I was looking forward to in 2020. She asked me to consider all that I had achieved compared to what I had hoped for. 

A tale of 2 years

Whilst out walking after that conversation, the first line of Charles Dicken’s novel a Tale of Two Cities came to mind. “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times…”. Most people have heard of it, but it struck me that I had never read further than that line. When I got back home, I looked up the first paragraph. It was so pertinent to how I felt about 2020!

In December 2019 I had just signed up for an introductory weekend to decide if after 5 years I would finally take the plunge and sign up for a coaching diploma. I have been coaching for around 20 years and was ready to study for a formal qualification. I was feeling excited and a bit apprehensive – this was pre-pandemic, but I already was not a big fan of a room full of people! It’s the introvert in me. 

So in January 2020, I went to Leeds and met some incredible, like minded people, who inspired me to commit to the course. I enrolled 2 days later and haven’t look back.

“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us…” Charles Dickens, a Tale of Two Cities.

Of course, that weekend was always going to set my 2020’s direction. I just didn’t expect it to be quite like it turned out! The fact that I had to stay at home meant that I could focus. My diary filled up with virtual coaching, webinars, mentoring and writing up course work (I am so glad that I drafted it as I went along, rather than wait until the end). 

Upon reflection, I’m actually very grateful for 2020 in may ways:

I am fitter, having explored my village and the neighbouring ones that are within walking distance. Not something I had given time to in the previous 4 years. 

I met some truly remarkable people, that I may not have met ordinarily. These friends have supported my progress and have helped to raise my confidence when I was flagging. They know me so well, despite us having never met in person (yet). 

I’ve set up my coaching business and I am almost ready for 2021…just need to stop tweaking my website and publish it! It may not be perfect, but it’s a good start…one step at a time, as I often say. 

The other side of the coin of course is that I have lost valuable time with friends and family that cannot be replaced. 

So yes, 2020 has been the best of times and the worst of times. As we enter what feels like lockdown number 34, we may feel like there is nothing before us. However, I’m choosing to remember that 2020 gave me lots of opportunities that I didn’t see coming. I’m hugely thankful for that. 

Finally then, on to 2021’s resolutions – 

 – Grab every opportunity I’m given, however scary and outside my comfort zone.

 – Continue to live in the moment and appreciate the simple things in life.

– Publish my website finally! 

What are your resolutions for 2021? Leave me a comment below.

Vocation and why I do what I do

This month, I’ve been thinking about vocation and why I do what I do. Last year I left the corporate world. For pretty much all of my working life it had supported my development, helped me grow as a person and as a leader. It gave me access to learn from wonderful, inspiring people and enabled my financial freedom.

But why would you do that, I hear you ask? The reason was simple, to spend more quality time with family and friends. “What are you doing next?” people queried. “I’m taking a break and then I fancy starting a history degree in October”. “You should be a Coach, you’re good at that”, many said.

Well.

I spent the second half of 2019 sleeping, reconnecting with family and friends, travelling (oh how I miss you, travel) and sleeping! The enrolment day for the history degree came and went. At Christmas I thought about coaching again (it had never really gone away). Could I be successful running it as a part-time business? I enrolled in a personal performance coaching diploma to cement and develop my understanding of how to coach.

Vocation

You see, I’ve been coaching individuals and teams for over 15 years and it is something that I truly love. Before I was first coached I thought if I showed my feelings or asked for help, that I was showing weakness. What I learnt was that being vulnerable is a strength and it’s how we grow. Also the benefit of working with a coach is that they are not your friend or family. You may never meet them (especially at the moment!) and it’s often easier to broach things with someone who can be detached, yet who believes in you and wants the best for you.

So I did it. With the help of my coach, I identified all of the different components I would need to complete to set up a business. I worked through them bit by bit, step by step. Finally, I took several deep breaths and set up Seascape Coaching Ltd.

Why I do What I do

It’s been so rewarding. I am so fortunate to see people raise their own self-awareness. To be with them when they have a break-through; hear them find their power. To see how they literally glow with confidence as they take one step forward and then another. Knowing that it all came from within themselves, with me cheering them on from the other side of the computer screen.

A Work in Progress

Like myself, Seascape Coaching Ltd is a work in progress. However, as I reflect back at the end of 2020, I know that I’m paying forward all that the corporate world invested in me. I haven’t left it behind, I carry it with me.

That’s a great feeling!

If you want help in finding your vocation and purpose in life, get in touch. Email rachel@seascapecoaching.co.uk